I do whatever it takes to extend my message to my kids. It doesn't matter who it's through.
I’ve used The Village. Oh you don’t know what the village is? The Village is a part of the old saying It takes a village to raise a child. In fact, I wrote an article on Medium.com about this. I use Medium.com to direct my parents to blogs about how their kids can attain the #1 Mindset. Kids must also know how to maximize their strengths. The earlier they learn this, the better they’ll become as adults who only notice their strengths as opposed to perseverating on their weaknesses.
So the question I need to ask is why aren’t people using The Village more often?
I know why. There are too many parents trying to be super parents like they’re going to get inducted into the Parent Hall of Fame.
Listen, be willing to use The Village. It doesn’t mean you’re weak, it means you’re smart enough to know that you can’t do everything on your own. Recently we’ve decided to get Trey a therapist. A third party individual who can convey our message to him along with give their insight on how to help Trey succeed.
This has been working phenomenally. Trey seems to open up to the therapist about his feelings and what goes on with him on a weekly basis. This is an avenue that we had to use because we tried everything we could to help place Trey in the most successful places but he just doesn’t capitalize on the opportunities.
When we saw that he was having troubles, we immediately made swift changes. Both Michelle and I have worked in the Special Ed sector for well over a decade and know how to not only put kids in a place to succeed but also how to help students maximize their potential. But recently it has been tough for Trey to ultimately create the change that has worked for him.
His therapist is a God-send. She allows Trey to be himself and open up. She also says the same thing we’ve told Trey. But if you know how people operate, sometimes it’s not what they say, it’s how they say it.
Having Trey talk to his therapist takes the load off of me and Michelle. It allows us to take a back seat (and stop lecturing Trey) to have someone else to speak with Trey.
I don’t mind having The Village help to raise my son. I want my energy back and if that means I have to delegate opportunities to others, then so be it. I suggest you doing the same thing. At the end of the day, its us parents who need all the energy we can get as well as needing all of the sanity we can get too.