Yes! Please do - Google Me!
But before you do, let me tell you what Google and I have in common...
Why do I constantly talk about being AUTHENTIC? It's very simple - because I used to live a fake life.
This used to be me...
Constantly faking my life...
Constantly hiding behind my failures...
Constantly worrying about my future...
Constantly quitting and starting over...
Constantly making excuses...
Constantly tired and lacking effort...
Constantly hoping for a breakthrough...
I was losing and I didn't like where I was in life.
I lost my job...
I was failing as a dad and husband...
I was financially underwater...
So what did I do??
I gained extreme clarity.
Hi, I'm Coach Fred Blumenberg!
At age 37 (2015), my life was spiraling out of control. I had three kids, I just got fired from a good job and had no money. My confidence was shot and I felt like a complete loser.
I FELT COMPLETE DESPERATION. I wasn't tired, I was ti(r)ed *pronounced like tied. (SEE BOTTOM OF WEBPAGE FOR COMPLETE DESCRIPTION)*
I was ti(r)ed. I just couldn't take anymore of my lying, wishing, hoping and quitting on myself. I was done with living my life to achieve the status quo and just going through the daily motions of life. I was READY to start over.
After I got fired, I sat in the parking lot, in my car for hours. It was then that I decided to become EXTREMELY CLEAR on what I wanted out of my life. I did this by asking myself basic Yes-No questions and ONLY GIVING yes and no answers.
I kept it simple.
Black and white.
NO GREY AREA. There wasn't maybes or if, and, but, then, would've, could've, should've answers. NO.
There was YES or NO.
Here are a few questions I asked myself...
Am I a good dad? No.
Am I doing whatever it takes to provide for my family? No.
Am I being a good husband? No.
Do I want to be a multimillionaire? Yes.
Do I like my career path? No.
Do I want to become an entrepreneur? Yes.
Once I gained clarity on what I wanted, I had NO CLUE where to begin or how to even take action towards what I wanted.
Have you ever felt like this? You know EXACTLY what you want but you don't know where to begin or the task is too daunting to follow through with?
As I sat there pondering my past and how I got to where I was, I remember a common thread with all of my shortcomings. It wasn't that I wasn't trying to make my life better, my problem was that I feared failure. But there was a much bigger problem as to why I never went for what I truly wanted in life.
There was ONE THING that held me back from taking IMMEDIATE ACTION and continue it through to the finish line. It was simple::
I lacked commitment.
This was the key for me.
My problem was commitment. I had big time commitment issues. My commitment issues were linked to my fear of failing, being embarrassed, looking like I didn't know what I was doing and simply not finishing what I started.
I never finished anything because I simply wasn't 100% committed to the end.
That's when I realized that my commitment was a promise that I made to myself to see something through to the end.
This meant that I promised myself that I would finish whatever I started - no matter what.
Through the good, the bad and the UGLY - I was going to stay COMMITTED to the finish line.
I learned to stay committed.