Michelle is the one thing that I can truly say is the best choice I've ever made in my entire life.
You guys know me. I’m energetic, enthusiastic, and have crazy work ethic. But the one thing you guys don’t know is that I’m not able to do any of this without my awesome wife, Michelle.
What you don't know is that Michelle takes on the brunt end of all of my attitudes.
When I’m feeling down, pissed off, unhappy, unmotivated, lost - she absorbs it. She’s able to redirect me and help me to understand that I need to change my attitude.
You would think that I would have a perfect attitude right? I’m able to tell everyone else how to maintain a Teflon Don Positive Mindset but my wife has to tell me to get it together when I’m acting petulant?
Here’s the thing: Michelle is the support that I desperately needed. I was engaged to a woman by the name of Kim and I thought she was what I needed in a strong woman.
I underwood at a young age that I needed a strong woman. Not a woman that would tell me I was great and all the good shit I needed to hear. No. I needed a woman who was strong enough in who she was and could check me and my ego when the time was necessary.
I needed a woman who could challenge me as well as be the strength I needed. She could challenge my mindset and keep my ego from shooting through the stratosphere.
I broke up with Kim because we weren’t comparable. She was too insecure and needed me more from me than I was able to give. It was hard to love Kim. When I met Michelle, there was a calm about her that put me at ease. She was more sure of herself and was easy to love. I told her that I loved her one month after we met. It was the craziest thing because it was unlike me to be so open in the beginning of a relationship. The following year, we got married.
It all seemed to be so unconventional. In fact, if you go by the Societal Guy Code Rule Book, you never marry your “rebound girl.” You never say “I love you” first. We got married through B96 Wild Wedding 3 in 2006.
Wait what!?! Yes. We got married the unconventional way. It happened by way of a phone call to the B96 station in Chicago, IL USA. They had callers who would call in to voice as to why they deserve to be a part of the “Wild Wedding.” The wedding consisted of one pastor marrying a mass number of couples at once.
I called I’m on a whim and won a spot for Michelle and I. I later proposed to her over the telephone. Just so you know, she knew I was calling in beforehand but she not I expected to win anything. Unconventional. The rest is history.
We’ve been married for 11 years. Everything we’ve done has been unconventional. We had four kids, we got married through B96, we moved to Idaho and drained our retirement accounts, and I’ve become an Entrepreneurial Mindset Coach.
It all looks and sounds crazy. The best part? I would never be able to have done this without her. She’s always been flexible with whatever decision I’ve made. She’s always supported me when it seemed as though I didn't know what the hell I was doing. She’s always dealt with my good, bad and ugly attitude when times have mirrored the same.
Without my wife, I’d be lost. I’m appreciative of her support everyday. This article is for others to understand the person that helps me to be me is the one person you may not see. It’s the one person who’s in the background taking care of the household and telling me that everything will be alright. It’s the person that’s telling me to “breathe” when I feel like giving up or when things seem like they’re going to crash and burn.
That person is Michelle Blumenberg. When you see her, I want you to understand that she has helped me more than you’ll ever see. This February, she signed me up to coach the fourth grade Sandpoint Park District boys basketball team. I told her I didn't want to but she signed me up anyway. She probably knows me better than I know myself. She probably sees something in Coaching that I don’t see.
She’s good at that stuff. She’s my wife. And I love her everyday for loving me.
Be awesome all day, everyday.